I Like Thick Thighs (and I cannot lie)

Clubbing at….40?!

Picture this: I’m at the club for my friend’s 23rd birthday, and it’s about 11pm. There are a lot of things wrong with this statement. What am I, at 41, doing in a nightclub? At 11pm? Hanging out with 23 year olds?

Whatever. Stay with me here (laughing face emoji).  

I look amazing.  Since I rarely go out, I really brought it for this party.  Satin, leopard print, mini shirt dress; thigh high, black leather, platform, stiletto heel boots; hair down; all of my gold jewelry.  I killed it.

So, I’m with my 20-something crew, feeling myself, having a drink, fitting in.  And then I start to notice that so many people are wearing white Nike Air Force One’s.  Actually, taking a closer look, I see even the people not wearing white air force ones are still wearing white, low top runners: converse, keds, pumas, etc. 

Wait a minute….EVERYONE is wearing runners.  And everyone is wearing jeans and a t-shirt or tank. Everyone except me.

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LTK – The App That Makes it Easy

By Nazanin Abbasi, @ggbeautyz

You see them on Tik Tok, you see them on Instagram, but now here you are in front of your closet feeling lost again.

This article is part 2 of where to get inspiration for your day to day look.

I’m going more in depth this time with an actual styling app that one of my followers turned me on to.  

LTK is a FREE app that actually shows you what an outfit looks like on a real body that looks like yours.  And many of the influencers (the people who post the outfits are called influencers – they are “influencing” you) will tell you where they bought an item, and how much it costs.

Naz, the follower who suggested LTK to me, is a 40 something, mid-sized woman like the rest of us who believes in inclusive fashion and has given us a step by step EASY breakdown on how to download the app, and use it.

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What’s Your Advice for Young People?

I love the answers I get when I ask people, “If you could go back in time and do it all again, would you?”

Almost without fail, the answer I get is, “If I knew what I know now, and I get to take my ‘now’ brain back to my 20 year old body, then yes.”

We almost unfailingly don’t want to go back to our youth. So what is it about aging that we love? And what, in retrospect, do we feel we could have improved when we were young?

This is the question I’m posing this week. If we can each give young people advice about getting older, what is it? What wisdom can we share that we wish we would have known then?

We may have crested mid life, but the lesson we can get out of this is that even now we don’t know what we don’t know. But there are people who do know, and can help us live our best lives, every step of the way!

I’ll leave you with this: If you were to ask this same question to someone who is 30 years older than you, would you be able to take their advice about the age you are right now?!

Happy thinking!

Tailoring for Masc Womxn

You’re a big, masc queen with a rockin’ (femme) bod. You love an andro look, but masc clothes don’t fit your body and you’re stuck wearing the least feminine women’s clothes you can find (I’m picturing a lot of you in your collection of hoodies and sweats).

Now, there are stores in Vancouver that cater to this demographic and I don’t want to take away from them. They are an excellent resource and I applaud their pioneering. I think everyone should pay a visit to Cos, Peau de Loup, etc. But this article is for people who don’t have the time, or means to visit these places during their open hours. Or perhaps you just don’t like their styles, simple enough.

My advice for you is: Tailor. That. Shit.

“That’s your advice? That’s it?”

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Your (Easy) Guide to Styling a Thick Body

by Karyn Rudance

You’re standing in the store. You love the dress. You buy the dress. You take the dress home and put it on. You look like a sack of potatoes. “Intimidaaatiooon” (in Lowered Expectations sing-song – Mad TV 1990’s? No? Just me?).

Let’s talk about how to elevate that idea of a garment into a “look.” 

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Slimming Doesn’t Mean Flattering

“Flattering” is not synonymous with “slimming.”  I’ll say it again: an outfit doesn’t need to make you look thinner in order to make you look good!

We all know the old marketing gimmick of encouraging woman to strive for “thin” to make her want to buy a product. But what if we started seeing our body’s size as just another feature.  Because let’s get real, if we tend toward the plus sizes, we take up some space.  Are we really making ourselves less visible by dressing to minimize our size?

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Karyn Rudance - Curly Hair Vancouver

“Perfectly Average” by Karyn Rudance

When I hit 40, I gained 30 lbs, got glasses, and my curly hair went straight.  Most women I talked to laughed it off casually as “welcome to your 40’s!”

So here I am now, middle aged, mid-sized, and no feature so notable that it’s worth a brag.  Except I keep getting compliments on my “style,” or the way I carry myself.  Women ask me “where did you get that outfit?”

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